Monday, November 25, 2013

Stop Threatening Me With Santa

                Tis the season to use Santa to get our kids to listen and behave.  You know the drill.  “You had better stop hitting your brother or Santa won’t bring you anything for Christmas.”  We’re all guilty of it or at least we have most likely had it used on us at some point in our lives.  But, I propose this.  Let’s use Santa to encourage our kids to do good.
                Maybe your child worked on a mission type project this year such as collecting canned goods for the food pantry or volunteering somewhere.  Wouldn’t it be cool if Santa wrote him/her a thank you card, letting him/her know that his/her good deed was noticed, that he is very proud of him/her for doing it and maybe suggesting something else that he/she might do? 
For example, my daughter and I are still trying to collect 5000 books for Bernie’s Book Bank.  We started this summer and are at about 1600 books right now.  Santa might tell her the importance of having books, thanking her for what she has collected so far and encouraging her to continue the collections to try to complete her goal by the end of next year.

                It will only take a minute to draft a letter from Santa and your child will be encouraged to go out there and continue being the good kid you know he/she is.

Sunday, November 24, 2013

Host A Dinner Party

                A dinner party?  Sounds like fun doesn’t it?  There’s most likely not enough time to set this up by Giving Tuesday, but you can make the plans that night.  Now, for the details.
                Stop Hunger Now is an organization similar to Feed My Starving Children.  They package food that contains rice, soy, dehydrated vegetables and a flavoring mix including 21 essential vitamins and minerals.  They support school feeding programs and crisis relief around the world.  
                At www.stophungernow.org/dinner you can order a Dinner Party in a Box for a twenty-five dollar donation.  This box includes a Stop Hunger Now meal bag (feeds 6), invitations, instructions which include hunger facts and discussion questions, recipes from some of the countries they serve and six place cards with photos and stories of some of the children that receive meals.   

                So think about five friends that you could invite.  If you have more than five friends, invite eleven and order two boxes.  It’s a great way to start a conversation about hunger in your community and around the world, while experiencing for one night a meal that others survive on.  

Tuesday, November 12, 2013

Baby It's Cold Outside

                Well, we had our first snowfall of the season last night.  My hands about froze while I was scraping my windshields.  I thought I had a pair of gloves in my coat pockets, but I was mistaken.  Luckily, I have a Chevy and the heat was in full force when I finished the task.  I haven’t owned a Chevy yet that didn’t have good heat. 

                This gives some food for thought for this year’s “Giving Tuesday.”  Do you have leftover skeins of yarn from projects finished long ago?  You can put it to good use by crocheting or knitting scarves and hats for the homeless.  Or you can make squares to take to Michael’s for “Warm up America” and they’ll put them into an afghan.  Either way, you will help someone else while reducing your clutter.    

Monday, November 11, 2013

Feed'Em Soup

                Dignity.  That’s a word that came to mind when I browsed the “Feed’Em Soup” site.  Feed ‘em Soup is a non-profit organization in DeKalb that serves a community meal every Wednesday from 5 to 7.  Everyone is welcome.  It is a pay what you can meal, even if that is nothing.  To me the dignity part comes with the restaurant type atmosphere.  It’s not just a soup kitchen.  It’s a place to sit down and have a good meal.  A choice of soup or salad is offered along with a main course.  Again, the meal is open to everyone.  The entire community, old, young, economically advantaged and disadvantaged can come and share a meal. 

                On Thursday, Friday and Saturday nights from 9 pm to 3 am, Feed’em Soup offers Tapas for a price.  All proceeds go to the Wednesday night meal.  The eats are just $2 for sliders and about a dollar for sides. So, if you have a college student at Northern Illinois University, pass this information along.  It’s inexpensive food to satisfy their late night cravings and their money will go to a good cause.  Who knows, they might decide to volunteer there and have an additional great experience.

Sunday, November 10, 2013

Pajama Party

                The temperature is dropping.  It’s time to pull out the comfy jammies.  I love the fleece pants!
When my daughter was a toddler the “Good Night Show” on Nickelodeon used to have Pajama drives.  I imagine they still do.  Recently I received an email from Scholastic Book Clubs which offered, “You Donate Pajamas, We’ll Match with Books.”  They have easy instructions on their website to get your child’s classroom involved.  Donations ultimately go to the “Pajama Program.”   The “Pajama Program” website also has easy instructions on how to hold a pajama and/or book drive to support their program which gets new pajamas and books into the hands of children in need.

                So, in the spirit of Giving Tuesday, why not have a Pajama Party?  Invite your friends and family over for a video and ask them to bring a new set of pajamas.  Or the weekend before, allow your kids to have a pajama party on the condition that their friends bring pajamas.  Then when you lose sleep, you will know it’s for a good cause!  

Saturday, November 9, 2013

Do You Want to Play a Game?

                My first idea to bring to the table for “Giving Tuesday” actually came to me as I was browsing their site.  A gaming company in England is holding “Gaming Tuesday” where you sign up to play video games and you sponsor one of the charities that they partner with.  I tried to get more information, but my surfing skills are limited and I wiped out when looking for how to sign up and choose your charity.  But, it sparked a thought. 
                Hold a game night through your organization, or just family and friends.  Pick a charity and have an “entrance fee” that would go to that charity.  Then have a great night with friends and family while knowing that you helped others.  To get the brain in gear, here are some suggestions for charities to benefit from your game night.
                If you wish to keep the game night theme, you could ask people to bring a game or toy with them to donate to “Toys for Tots.” 

Entrance fee can be food items to go to the food pantry.  Scarves, hats mittens and gloves would be a fee that would help others keep warm this winter.  A box of diapers or formula could help out a struggling mom.  Or you could choose something from Heifer International by either asking people to buy a share (most things go for around $10/share) or you could collect $5 per person and ten people could give a gift of a healthy home.  The possibilities are endless.   

Friday, November 8, 2013

Weddings and Funerals

                I was browsing Facebook this morning and a friend had posted a photo that said, “You don’t need a reason to help people.”  It was from a liberal posting.  Full disclosure…I’m a registered Republican that believes in helping people.  I just like to do it on my terms.  Anyway, I agree with the photo.  You don’t need a reason.  You should help people because you have that undeniable urge to.  When someone drops something, you automatically stop and pick it up for them.  It’s what we humans do.  So, why are there movements to help people?  Why do I write this post?  Two words.  “Weddings” and “Funerals.”  What?
                If you’re from a family like mine, life gets in the way and the only time you really see those in your extended family, is at weddings and funerals.  You mean to call them, but you just haven’t gotten around to it.  Sound familiar? 
                We all want to do good, but life gets so busy, we forget about our fellow man until the bell ringers stand at the door in front of the store as we hurriedly run in looking for the latest gizmo to buy our nephews and/or nieces.  I’m not judging.  It is what it is.  I get busy too.  I’ve been “too busy” to write in this blog. 

                So, for my first bit of advice, in preparation of Giving Tuesday, I say take a deep breath, be still and listen.  Listen to what your friends are saying.  Listen to what the world is saying.  You’d be surprised at what ideas pop into your head.  

Thursday, November 7, 2013

Giving Tuesday 2013

               Last year at around this time, I wrote about “Giving Tuesday.”  It’s a movement to give back on the Tuesday after Thanksgiving.  That is a mere 25 days from now, December 3.  I will do my best to help you generate ideas in order to participate.  I will start by giving you information.  The website is www.givingtuesday.org.  Once you decide what you are doing, you’re encouraged to tell people about it.  Some may consider this bragging…and some people might use it to brag.  But, it is more about spreading the seed of good deeds out there.   The intent is to get the word out.  Together we can make the world a better place.  I understand the hesitance though, but take this story for an example.

                Jennifer writes an article for her church’s newsletter about care packages for the military.  Terry sees Jennifer after church and mentions a group that sends pizza’s to the troops overseas.  The choir director stops Jennifer the next week and excitedly talks about sending batteries and headphones to the troops because batteries are always needed and the head phones/ear buds get dry and cracked in the heat over there.  Two extra ideas generated from one article.  What ideas can be generated by the conversation that you start?  

Wednesday, November 6, 2013

The Versatile Shoebox


Shoeboxes have been used for a variety of reasons.  I remember scrounging for a shoebox to make my diorama project for a grade school history project.  Before the invention of plastic boxes, shoeboxes held records of bills paid.  Old broken crayons, glue and scraps of papers found their way to a home recently vacated by my new high tops.  Picture frames can be made from the lids.  If you Google it, you can find even more uses that I have not mentioned.
This week, I found another use for shoe boxes in my daughter’s backpack.  The “Change the World Club” at her school is participating in the “Operation Christmas Child” project.  The informational flyer sent home requested small objects that fit into a shoe box.  Things like school supplies (pens, papers, crayons, etc…), Toys (small cars, ball, dolls, stuffed animals, musical instruments etc…), Hygiene items, (toothbrush, toothpaste, washcloth), and miscellaneous stuff (hairclips, toy jewelry, sunglasses, etc..).  The cost to ship is $7 per box and the boxes go to children in need for Christmas.  It’s a great idea for a Christmas charity project for your youth group.

For more information, you can visit www.samaritanspurse.org and click on “Operation Christmas Child.”

Thursday, June 13, 2013

Blessings In a Backpack

                I really like charities that provide opportunities for all people to get involved, no matter what their niche.  One such charity is Blessings in a Backpack which fills the nutritional void on the weekends for children who are on reduced or free lunches by sending the children home on Friday with a backpack filled with easy to prepare non-perishable food.  How can you get involved?
                If you are an organizational whiz, you can get things started by adopting a school in your area.  Then there are fundraising goals to be met in order to feed the children your program will be supporting and a partnership with a local grocer needs to be established.  Volunteers need to be gathered up as well.
                If you prefer to be a hands-on, in the trenches person, you can volunteer to transport food from the grocery store to the school.  You can also volunteer to pack the backpacks.
                If you are one who prefers to be on the sidelines and fund charities, you can write a check.  The cost for the program is approximately $80 per child per school year. 
                  Although, Blessings in a Backpack provides the backpacks used in your program, there is always a need for more backpacks.  This provides a great opportunity for a smaller community that wants to help, but does not have the capability to support a school on its own.

                So, whatever your preference is when you work with a charity, you can most likely find a way to help with Blessings in a Backpack.  For more information, please visit their website at blessingsinabackpack.org.

Monday, June 3, 2013

Arts and Crafts

                One day, I was talking to my daughter’s kindergarten teacher about Bernie’s Book Bank.  She told me that I would be amazed at how many children don’t have books at home.  She also commented on the fact that some of her students have never held a pair of scissors before coming to her class.  I was surprised, as I recalled the many times that my daughter cut paper into little tiny pieces and that one of her favorite workbooks was the scissor skills book that I had purchased for her.  This got me thinking….

                When it comes to choosing between food and craft supplies, it’s a no brainer…food wins hands down.  But arts and crafts are important to feed the imagination.  What if someone made up craft boxes that included scissors (blunt tip of course), glue sticks and the other necessities of crafts, complete with a couple of project directions?  Something to ponder….

Thursday, May 23, 2013

Practice Makes Perfect


                “Practice makes perfect.”  Whether it’s piano, soccer, baseball or painting, children have this aversion to practicing on their own.  There are just too many other things to do, especially when summer rolls around.  I have a suggestion that might work and do some good.
                First it will take a little research.  If your child is old enough, he/she can help.  Find charities that are related.  For example, if your child doesn’t want to practice soccer, look for charities that give soccer balls to kids who don’t have any.  Give your child three choices and let him/her pick the charity he/she is interested in. 
                Next, set a goal.  If $25 gets a soccer ball to a child in need, that would be a good goal.  Have them decorate poster board with a way for them to mark their progress (a thermometer which marks things off in increments of $1 or a soccer field with a counter leading to the goal).  Be creative.
Then, pay them every time they practice.  Make it reasonable, but challenging, in other words, they don’t get paid to kick the ball twice.   Together you can make a difference and your child will get the practice he/she needs.  By the end of summer, practice will be a habit and your child will have learned a lesson in charity.  It’s a win-win.  

Thursday, May 16, 2013

St. John's House

This post I will be doing something different and giving the driver seat to a person who can tell the story much better than I.  The story is about an after school program in Huntington West Virginia.  Without further adieu...I give you the story as told by Mr. Jerry Coleman.


St. John’s House has been in operation since fall 1991.  In 1996 we incorporated as a nonprofit corporation and formed a board comprised of individuals from the community.

I’ve heard a couple of explanations as to how the program started but I think the two actually fit together.  First, Bishop Smith of the Episcopal Diocese of West Virginia challenged the churches to develop viable outreach programs.  Second, one of our church members, who still volunteers to work with the children one day a week, told me the program started when she was serving on the vestry at St. John’s Episcopal Church.  She said that she noticed that at every meeting most of the discussion was about immediate needs of the church, such as how to pay the bills, make payroll, do building maintenance, etc.  Finally, she spoke up noting that while those issues are important she simply asked, “What are we doing for others”?  Sometimes one voice is all that is needed for a wakeup call.  It did not take long to identify a need in the community that we could address.  Marcum Terrace is a government subsidized housing complex with approximately 280 housing units.  It is only a couple of miles from the church. There are many “at risk” children living there.  They are mostly from single parent families with few if any positive male role models.  They are economically disadvantaged and have a greater exposure to crime, drugs, and alcohol.

There was no model to follow.  The program started with a few volunteers from St. John’s Episcopal Church who played with the children and provided them a snack twice a week.  We were allowed to use one of the vacant apartments.  The goal was to provide a safe place for the children to go after school where they could play and interact with others while being exposed to some positive role models.  The response was overwhelming with 80 to well over 100 children participating.  The challenge was then to identify more specific needs and ways to meet those needs.
Having adequate space quickly became an issue.  The Housing Authority solved this by allowing us to use the Community Center, a separate building in the complex.  We now had a much larger kitchen, tables for the children, and office and storage space.  We expanded to provide after school services five days a week throughout the school year.  Greater attention was paid to programing of activities.  The board games and other games helped with learning and cognitive development.  Enrichment programs included bringing in people such as dentists, doctors, firefighters and police officers to talk to the children.  We offered help with homework.  We hope to foster a better attitude on the part of the children toward education and learning.  Most importantly, we hope to booster each child’s self esteem. 

To help us meet the needs of the children, we began to develop a much closer working relationship with Marshall University.  We use a dietetic student to plan menus, shop for food and prepare the meals.  This future dietician models healthy food choices for the children.  The Marshall Department of Communication Disorders has also become very active in our program.  They provide many of the student volunteers who work with the children throughout the year.  A number of our children have some speech issues and this has proven to be a very good fit for us.

Initially the program was open to all the children; however, due to some behavior/disciplinary problems with some of the older children we now serve primarily children 4 to 12 years of age. 

A couple of years ago the board of directors felt that we needed to do something to provide better structure and programming for the children.  As a result, we entered into a collaborative partnership with Marshall University beginning in August 2011.  MU provides two graduate students to coordinate the 30 in-service student volunteers provided by the university.  They function as program directors and are responsible for developing and implementing enrichment activities required for eligibility at the “at-risk” reimbursement rate for the Child and Adult Care Food Program sponsored by the WV Department of Education.  The performance of these graduate students has simply been outstanding.  The same can be said for all the volunteers and paid staff.  They’ve brought new life to the program; our attendance is up and behavior problems down.  All of our volunteers and staff are required to complete a training program entitled, “Safeguarding God’s Children.”  This teaches them the rules they are to follow in working with the children and gives them pertinent information about child abuse.  The safety of the children is always our top priority.

St. John’s House is a “drop-in” center where children attend because they want to be there.  40 to 80 children attend each session with the average attendance in the fifties, which is almost a 100% increase over the previous year.  Over 130 elementary school-aged children participated last year.  There is a balance of Caucasian and African-American boys and girls.  We have expanded the program to operate 8 weeks in the summer.

The expanded hours and addition of the two graduate students has increased our costs.  The stipend for the two students is $4,400 per school year.  We have 3 to 4 part-time employees (average about 10 hours per week).  We have been able to keep our overall costs low.  The Housing Authority provides the Community Center, so overhead expenses are low.  Volunteers perform our bookkeeping and secretarial duties.  Marshall University provides student volunteers participating in MU’s in-service learning program.  We have other volunteers from St. John’s Episcopal Church and the community who work with the children.  We remain financially sound.  Our annual fundraising dinner is well supported by the community.  St. John’s Episcopal Church offers financial support.  We use the NIP tax credit.  We are eligible for reimbursement of food costs through the Child and Adult Care Food Program.  The annual expenses for 2012-2013 will exceed $47,000, excluding the stipends paid to the university for the graduate students.

In 1998 St. John’s House was awarded the “Outstanding Community Faith Project” from the West Virginia Welfare Reform Coalition and in 2002 received the “Share the Vision Award” from Above And Beyond.  We receive very positive feedback from the parents, children, and the WV Office of Child Nutrition and the Huntington Housing Authority. 

At the beginning of each school year we provide backpacks and essential school supplies for approximately 110 students from pre-school up to and including seniors in high school.  Throughout the year we provide positive role models, nutritious meals, and supervised activities after school.  People donate age appropriate books, which are given to the children.  They have the option of keeping them or returning them after they have read them. 

Last year our two graduate students spoke to the congregation at St. John’s.  They talked about the things that we were doing for the children, but they also in a very eloquent and moving way spoke of the impact the program has on the Marshall students.  For many it’s a life changing experience and some have even changed their career goals as a result.

Eight people serve on our board and every one of them is totally dedicated to the success of this program.  It has been a delight to work with them.  St. John’s House Learning & Development Center, Inc. is the formal name of the program, but most of us simply call it St. John’s House.  However, most of the children call it their “learning center”, and I think that is the greatest compliment.  They understand what it is; they get it.  And that tells me that we must be doing something right.


Friday, May 3, 2013

Let's Throw a Housewarming Party!


                I’ve always been better at destruction than construction.  Have a remodeling project?  Call me to get rid of the old stuff.  So, projects like Habitat for Humanity are best left for others.   When it comes to charity, you have to know what you’re good at. 
                All the times that I’ve heard the people at church ask for volunteers to do a job for Habitat, I’ve wondered about the people moving in to the house.  Is the house empty?  Do they have anything to put in the house?  I began to think about how cool it would be for them to walk in the kitchen, open a cabinet and see dishes, glasses or pots and pans.  A drawer could be holding towels or silverware.  When I inquired about it, nobody knew what happened once the house was built. 
                It sounds to me like a housewarming party is in order.  So, send out some invitations, make some hor d’oeuvres, and ask guests to bring a gift to donate to building a home out of the house that was built.  

Thursday, April 25, 2013

Kids Get Active With Generation On


                I was watching television this morning and there was a commercial for kids to raise food for pantries.  They referred the viewer to www.generationon.org.  So, being in the mind of service, I looked it up.  This website has great ideas for kids to participate in to raise money or collect donations of food for the pantries. 
                If you remember Animal House, you will appreciate the clever play on words for the activity named, “Pantry Raid.”  (I’m easily amused.)  They also encourage kids to make friendship bracelets to raise money.  These are just a couple of ideas that they have.  I encourage you to visit the website and see more.  

Monday, April 22, 2013

Building Communities Through Charity


                I recently attended a baby shower that our church put on to support a charity.  It was wonderful to see those who intended enjoying coffee, cake, punch and great conversation.  Everyone enjoyed themselves.  Everyone had a chance to open a gift and “ooh” and “ahh” the gift.  The generosity of our parishioners amazes me, but the boon of the baby shower was how the parishioners came together as a community.  Charity does not have to be writing a check and forgetting about it.  Charity can be so much more.
                Whether it is your family, church, work, or the community you live in, when people get together for an event such as this, there is a bonus.  When you do something good together, you become closer.  You are working together for a goal which you believe in.  It’s hard to put in words, but trust me, if you try it, you will want to find more opportunities to have fun while helping others.  In my posts, I’ve given two examples, Dodge ball for Diapers and the Baby Shower.  What creative things can you come up with?  As always, if you would like to share your ideas, please email me at sowaseednow@gmail.com.

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Time to Plan Your Garden


                As spring rolls around, gardeners are planning their crops.  We always plant beans because they have a good return and they put Nitrogen back in the soil.  Of course there are the tomatoes and peppers.  My daughter loves peas and will eat them straight off the vine.  Every year, we try carrots, beets and potatoes, but our root vegetables don’t do very well.  The cabbage family on the other hand does great.  Fall will be spent making stuffed cabbages to freeze.  My husband likes summer squash, but we don’t usually plant them because they are too bountiful and don’t freeze well; at least not that I know of.  
There are a lot of crops that turn out more than the average gardener can handle.  Their coworkers run and hide when they see them come in with a bag full of cucumbers.  You can only eat so many of them.  But instead of not planting certain vegetables out of respect for your friends, here is something to consider.  Plant what you like and give the extras to the food pantry.  Fresh vegetables are always welcome and you will be giving to people who will appreciate the fruits of your labor. 

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

The Society for the Preservation of Human Dignity (PHD)


                “I wondered why somebody didn’t do something.  Then I realized that I am somebody,” is a saying that is decoupaged on a rock on my desk.  Marion Stocker, the founder of the Society for the Preservation of Human Dignity (PHD) put this saying into action when she felt empathetic toward unmarried women who felt that abortion was their only option.  In 1971 she started a hotline in her home.  It was the first pregnancy help center in Illinois.
                Today PHD provides counseling and support services to over 700 clients and their immediate families.  Their counseling services include: pregnancy support, 0-3 parenting skills, crisis intervention, grief and loss of a child/pregnancy, pregnancy decision making, post adoption, post abortion and postpartum depression.  They support their clients through services such as pregnancy planning, pregnancy testing, childbirth preparation, community linkage and referral, baby and maternity closet, mom and tot classes and educational opportunities through their library and classes. 
                PHD also has a prevention arm called, “Motivate.”  It includes a program which focuses on healthy sexuality and relationships for adolescents and learning the power of abstinence, one program which teaches parents how to talk to their children about sex, another program for parents of toddlers and preschoolers and an anti-bullying character education program for grade school students.   
                Finally, PHD offers a Baby Closet which distributes baby food, clothing, formula, diapers, winter coats and layettes.   Each layette provides a baby’s needs throughout their first 9 months of life.  More than 80% of PHD’S clients are at or below the poverty level and receive items from the Baby Closet for free.  But this could not be possible without donors.  PHD is one example of an organization that would benefit from a baby shower.  For more information about this organization please visit their website at www.sphd.org


Monday, April 8, 2013

April Showers


                With a forecast for rain all week, I consider it fitting to talk about showers.  Who doesn’t like a baby shower?  It’s a good way to share in the excitement of a bundle of joy coming into this world.  Those who have grown children are always amazed at the new-fangled gadgets that have come out since they were knee deep in diapers.  This leads to the stories of the struggles that they went through before someone invented the backpack that held babies close to their mothers.  One shower that I attended had a diaper raffle.  Those who brought in a package of diapers got a ticket and a chance to win a prize.  It was one of the few times in my life that I won a raffle. 
                But before the shower, there is the excitement of picking out the presents.  Yes, diapers are a necessity, but that outfit with the pink frills is adorable.  And who can’t resist the jammies with the footies?  In some ways the shopping is more fun than the shower.  But alas, babies tend to be spread out over the years and showers are scarce.  You and your friends are finished having kids and your children are busily working on careers.  What is a woman to do?  Throw a shower!  Yes, I said it.  Throw a shower.  The goods bought for the shower can be donated to hospitals or an organization which helps those who are expecting, but hit hard by the economy.  So go out and have some fun.  Play “Name that Baby Animal,” and help someone bring their child into a world full of love.

Wednesday, April 3, 2013

The Walking Season


                April marks the beginning of the “Walk” season as I like to call it.  Walks for charity begin now.  One that I have been known to participate in is the “March for Babies,” mostly because both of my daughters were preemie.  My first daughter was only five weeks early, but by going through that experience I was prepared mentally for my second daughter who was twelve weeks early.  I was blessed that both of my girls were born healthy and strong.  But, I know the pain of waiting and hoping and not feeling completely sure until you get the green light to go home.  I know the roller coaster of emotions that one goes through in that situation. 
                Most people who walk for a cause have in some way been affected by the cause they walk for.  When they attend the walk, they have a chance to be around people who know their pain, who don’t just idly nod their heads and say that they understand.  These people really understand because they were there.  They got the phone call in the middle of the night telling them their infant had to go through a procedure immediately.   They held their relative when they received the news that their body was riddled with cancer.  Those that walk, know. 
                So, when your friend or colleague asks you to donate to their cause, think about this.  Yes, your money is going to a cause, and the majority of it is probably going to overhead, but by donating you are telling your friend/colleague that you support them.  Although you can’t completely understand what they are going through or have gone through, you are there for them.  I believe with my whole heart that this is the main purpose of walking and supporting walkers and I hope this sheds some light on the subject for you.